We all know it; Friendships suffer the biggest challenges/changes once we reach our twenties. Whether you’re starting a family, moving to a new place, focusing on your career, getting married or simply just not quite ready to grow up yet; Here are 10 things you need to remind yourself about those precious friendships and how they can change in your twenties…
Its quality not quantity that counts
When you’re a teenager there is so much emphasis on how many friends you have/how often you go out with them. Once you reach your mid-twenties having a close knit group of friends you can sit in watching Netflix, eating ice cream and drinking wine with is seen as a winner.
A friendship ending can feel like an awful breakup and can take a long time to get over.
Quite often at this time in your life you will have known your close friends for a number of years and losing them from your life can be really, really hard. This is a normal way to feel and sometimes just like break-ups; it is a part of growing up. What connected you to someone in your teens may not be a part of your life anymore, and that’s just the way it is sometimes.
People drift apart and that can be a (really) good thing.
Sometimes it takes a bit of growing up and that transition to adulthood for you to realise that some people, quite simply put, aren’t particularly nice. Drifting apart from people that bring a negative influence into your life is a blessing in disguise.
I personally find myself going slightly mad if I haven’t seen/spoken to my friends for even a few days. Sometimes a call with a BFF just makes everything better and I just know every time I see them I’m going to leave with another great memory and great big smile on my face.
You don’t just find soulmates in your relationships; your friends become them too.
You may have found the ‘love of your life’ but that can never replace what you can get from a conversation with another woman. Your bff’s can bring out a side of you no one else can, they pull you up when you’re feeling down and help you grow into the woman you’re supposed to be.
Just because your friends are doing it doesn’t mean you have to be.
Simple; respect and help your friends along their paths but never feel just because they are at certain stages of their life it means you need to be too. Good friends will be there no matter what.
True friends are hard to come by so hold on to them.
Another lesson you learn as you get older and one every person reading this should take note of; Never take your friends for granted. A little effort goes a long way, don’t assume everyone else should be making it, otherwise you could lose some of the best people in your life.
Treat others how you wish to be treated.
Similar to above. Respect people, make people feel good and raise people up. Be the kind of person you would want to be around. Compliment, support, encourage; positive energy is contagious.
Don’t judge other people; you don’t know what they have been through.
Everyone has a story, everyone has been through something that shapes their opinions and values in life. Remember that physical attributes can be deceiving; never judge a book by its cover.
As you get older, friends become like family.
And it’s the best-thing-ever. Just like families do, you make your own traditions, have the funniest inside jokes and have been through some really tough times together. Getting older has never been so appealing.
Be open to new people.
One thing I have noticed in the last few years is how some people completely shut out the idea of new people. There is nothing wrong with developing new friendships, it doesn’t mean your old friends mean any less to you. There is nothing wrong with making new (amazing) friends at surprising places, such as work, the gym or even at random. Be open to new things and new people that could bring a whole new adventure into your life.
Not everyone will like you… and that is more than okay!
You can’t please them all and the world would be a boring place if you could. Sometimes the things that your bff’s love about you, may be just the thing someone else can stand to be around. Don’t judge them for it, don’t judge yourself on it, because there are plenty of people out there that think you’re amazing!